Stone or Ripple

On reflections. Finding notes written over the years and sharing as a way of further explaining the wonders of being mindful to the how we are being well.

Thoughts come freely when my mind is like a millpond. The profundity all encompassing. I saw a stone and the ripples it created as it sank into the still water of my mind. One suggestion, many outcomes, shorelines of resistance. 

Whether we are aware or not, cause and effect is all around us and to becoming aware as a process is part of a medical model millennia old.

Do I need double blind studies? They help in establishing empirical evidence to classify the results to form categories, from which medical models can be set, protocols agreed and referred to. 

Do I need to create a new model to bring to my wider community in returning to practice? We could call it something like the Holistic Effect Learning Programme, see what I did there with the acronym.

Or do I, as this morning on a walk with Tess, into the woods, allow the sounds and scents of nature ease me back to my mental millpond. Will I take the learning from my reactions to maintain good relationships, neither reactive stone causing chaos or the passive ripple merely getting out of the way. 

And to bring these learnings into each day, to remember the lessons from lockdowns. I didn’t learn a language, perfect fire breathing or now an expert on identifying mushrooms. What I have done is polished off my inner bullshit detector and laughed at when it’s pointing at me.

It took till now

Watching the shadows from the early sunshine creep across the golden wicker ottoman, it’s golden studs glistening, our dog softly breathing herself back to sleep, I feel as if this day will be etched in my mind. As did that day in February 2023. It has taken till now to feel like this. There have been other highlights, and many more lows than i could have expected. To be able to celebrate feeling as i am today is truly a tribute to many factors; family, friends, colleagues, consultants and even those people i will never see again, those that have been so very hateful and those that have been wonderfully kind hearted.

Image drawn in 2006, words added 2010, photo taken 2023…sometimes things take the time they take

And now, some two hours later, after searching for a specific image that i wanted to add, many files lighter now deleted and laptop tidied up I return to reflecting. I didn’t find the image I wanted, i know it’s there somewhere but in choosing another and allowing the process of ‘flow’ to remind me to return often to what is most important.

I had plans for today but maybe they will change now. All those things in my mind that made it to the list, will fall into place and be achieved in time. A day of following the flow. A day to celebrate being able to.

I thought it was the effects of grief

Emergency surgery and three months of convalescence, I see now it has been so much more.

As I start to reemerge, many insights have visited. Many in the cold of the night, sleepless and shifting under the covers; others at dawn, revelations and realisations gently easing me into the new day. I feel there is much to do now that the emergency of ill health has ceased, and many thoughts to come as to what my practice will be in my returning.

During the last few years, many practitioners now walk different paths, some choosing to retire, others being forced to find other modes of income, many like me who see our ‘work’ as a vocation, there was never a doubt of not returning to clinic. So I know that I can rise again, like a Phoenix out of the ashes, renewed, refreshed with a sharp focus. And the question for me now is How?

One thing I know is that it will be a gentle return, to take the learnings and to go deeper into the unknown aspects of Why ill health manifests for us. There are many factors to be considered and sadly as our health system has other considerations, the psychological aspects of the physical manifestations aren’t readily addressed. I find myself in a period of rehabilitation, with support from associated charities instead.

Until ‘the way’ becomes clear, curating wellbeing events at Deershed in July and then End of the Road in early September will take my attention.